Category: Relationships

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – This Meditation, When Looking at the Interpersonal Relationships of Children, It’s Possible to See Their Parents’ Minds

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – This Meditation, When Looking at the Interpersonal Relationships of Children, It’s Possible to See Their Parents’ Minds

My oldest son had a lot of inferiority and was negative about everything. He wasn’t confident and did not get along well with his friends. I didn’t want to see him like that so I told him to square his shoulders and live proudly. Although he answered, “I understand,” his behavior didn’t change. In middle school his homeroom teacher told me that he needed someone to talk to, that he seemed to be very anxious and frustrated. After that I tried to have a conversation with him, but he didn’t open up to me.

Santa Clara Meditation Empty Mind – 7 Years Of Marital Conflicts And A Happy Ending

Santa Clara Meditation Empty Mind – 7 Years Of Marital Conflicts And A Happy Ending

In early 2007, my wife and I went to court to file for divorce. We got back together to see if we still had any remaining feelings for each other and seven months later, we went to court again. We still blamed each other and each of us thought the other was wrong. It was an extreme battle of our pride. Finally, I got my divorce papers notarized and I went to the judge. We had reached the point where, if either one of us submitted the divorce documents, it was going to be final. But at that time, neither one of us wanted to go through with it.

Santa Clara Meditation Positive Life Changes – My Father Finds His Smile Again

Santa Clara Meditation Positive Life Changes – My Father Finds His Smile Again

Right around the time I started middle school, my father began having financial problems and the family situation suddenly became difficult. The calm atmosphere of the household immediately changed. Luckily, our money problems weren’t so bad that we had to live on the streets, but we did had to move to a smaller house. My father’s new job entailed travel and he was rarely home as a result. I didn’t like my father’s curt style before, but now I hated my dad for making my family’s life more difficult.

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – I Let Go of Prejudice and Standards

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – I Let Go of Prejudice and Standards

I vowed not to live like my parents and strove to live happily in my marriage. That’s how my marriage began, but I soon found out there was no such thing. Instead, there were endless fights with my husband and I turned to meditation because I was unable to figure out a way to get along. Through meditation, for the first time, I was able to reflect on myself instead of blaming my parents and my husband. This is my story about meditation, how I let go of myself who lived with resentment more than gratitude, and how I found happiness through the practice of meditation.

Santa Clara Meditation Joy – A Selfish “Witch” Becomes An Angel Without Wings

Santa Clara Meditation Joy – A Selfish “Witch” Becomes An Angel Without Wings

I was pregnant after only 3 months of marriage. When my child was born, my husband and I just weren’t prepared. It was very hard on my body and mind. The baby didn’t sleep well during the day or at night and constantly cried. As my life became focused on raising our child, the burden of parenting only grew in my mind. I wanted to be free, but I always had to take care of my child. Before, my husband called me “the witch” because I was irritable and nagging all the time. But I changed so much that my husband now says, “You are an angel, where are your wings?”

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I Reconciled With My Children And Now Have A Peaceful Family

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I Reconciled With My Children And Now Have A Peaceful Family

Youngsung Kang, a father who was stressed out because his son neglected studying to play computer games. He has lived with the belief that life is only worthwhile if you live working diligently. He couldn’t tolerate that his family was lazy. His son and daughter were cold to him because he forced them to live life like he had. Even his wife, when she looked at the situation, would say that there was never a comfortable day. It was meditation that ultimately softened this father who was so strong and hard headed. Eventually, father and son reconciled. Finally, they’d become a peaceful family.

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness – I Don’t Want To Live This Way Anymore. I’m So Sorry

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness – I Don’t Want To Live This Way Anymore. I’m So Sorry

I used to run a pump dealership. At the time, I often argued with my staff and I started drinking to relieve my stress. At one point, I lost my self-control. Once I started drinking, I kept on drinking. I would go home intoxicated and wake up my wife and children. I was looking for some kind of emotional release and I wanted to talk to my family about my problems, but they were only irritated with me. They started to shut me out…

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – Two Brothers Who Have Let Go Of Their Childhood Worries

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – Two Brothers Who Have Let Go Of Their Childhood Worries

I had no real plan for what I wanted to major in when I attended college. I just applied to a university that I knew would accept me with my grade point average. When I was younger, I had my dreams. But as I grew older and faced reality, it seemed like I couldn’t do anything. I cut classes regularly and when I went on vacation, I partied and drank a lot.

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Why Does My Child Have ‘Hyperactivity Disorder’?

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Why Does My Child Have ‘Hyperactivity Disorder’?

I often quarreled with my husband. That stress was passed on to our children as a result. Our oldest child had serious emotional issues as a result. He was always distracted and even became violent towards his younger brother. When he started elementary school, he couldn’t make friends. He would say, “I’m okay, even though I can’t make friends. I’ll be okay if they don’t like me.” He was constantly biting his fingernails and he bit them down to nothing. When we took him to the doctor, he told us he had some “vocal tics.”

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – My Husband Changed When I Let Go Of Nagging

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – My Husband Changed When I Let Go Of Nagging

It seemed like everything my husband was doing, I didn’t like. I was nagging him constantly. And every time I started nagging him, he would look at me with anger or annoyance in his eyes. My husband knew what he had done wrong, but he was not willing to fix it. More and more, I nagged him, and as a result he began returning home later and later and there was more animosity between us.

Santa Clara Meditation Positive Life Changes – Angry Mom Becomes Happy Mom And It’s Contagious

Santa Clara Meditation Positive Life Changes – Angry Mom Becomes Happy Mom And It’s Contagious

My mother and I used to play a game of “hide-and-seek” from the time I was in middle school until my freshman year in high school. Regardless of whether or not I wanted to study, my mother had enrolled me in English and math tutoring. I quickly rebelled, and I would never stay in my tutoring program for more than a month. My mom expected and pressured me to do what she had not achieved in her life. She was especially strict and scary when it came to my studies…

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – The Stress Of Raising My Children Has Completely Vanished

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – The Stress Of Raising My Children Has Completely Vanished

I am a mother of an eight-year-old boy and a five-year-old girl, and I have been married for 8 years. Every day is noisy because of my children’s trivial fighting. Whenever they fight over who gets to play with a toy, my husband always sides with my crying daughter. The oldest child then feels sad and cries. Looking at it hurts my heart. Whenever I see my children behaving like I did as a child, I feel anxious that my children could be hurt like I was…

Santa Clara Meditation Letting Go – Letting Go Of My Hostility Towards Men

Santa Clara Meditation Letting Go – Letting Go Of My Hostility Towards Men

“For me, men were always competition. Since my school days, I had to beat them. At work, I didn’t listen to my male colleague’s suggestions. I believed that men were useless. Then, on TV, I saw the actress Soo-na Lee say that her hatred for her husband had disappeared and her mind had become comfortable after meditating.”

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – My Dad’s Gray Hair Helped Me To Understand Him

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – My Dad’s Gray Hair Helped Me To Understand Him

I grew up being afraid of my father, but I obeyed and honored him since I was a child. My dad was like a friend, but he was always distant. He didn’t praise me often. He was more of a nag and was quite awkward when trying to express his feelings. “Don’t play on your computer.” “Don’t do this.” “Don’t do that.” “Don’t do anything…” It seems like all I ever heard from my father were negative things.

Santa Clara Meditation Insecurities – Was I Really That Complex? It Was All Just A Dream

Santa Clara Meditation Insecurities – Was I Really That Complex? It Was All Just A Dream

I was a complex person. I may not have looked shy, but if I had to speak in front of people, I always became nervous. When I was a child, my mother would ask me to go to the store to buy something for her and many times I would come back home empty-handed. This was because I was too shy to even ask the store clerk to get me what she’d asked me to pick up. Why was it so hard for me to ask the clerk to ‘please give me this,’ or ‘give me that?’ There were a lot of times that I bought something that she didn’t even need because I was too shy to keep asking the clerk until I got the correct item.

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Happiness I Knew Only In Theory, Becomes Realized

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Happiness I Knew Only In Theory, Becomes Realized

There were some words printed on the beautiful cover of a meditation pamphlet: “If you empty your mind, it becomes the universe and the truth.” I could really be like that… If I could really empty my mind like that, how great it would be. I read it over and over again. My husband is an artist. I met my husband in a painting club, but I thought living would be difficult if we were both painters. I gave up painting because my husband is a more talented painter than I am, and after we got married, I worked. Since then I have had many jobs.

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – Meditation Is Enjoyable When Letting Go Of My Obsession

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – Meditation Is Enjoyable When Letting Go Of My Obsession

When I was in school, all I wanted to do was study hard. In my experiences with school, when I got good grades, I received my parents’ love and my friends’ interest and my inferiority was fulfilled. I became so bent on maintaining all of this attention, I became obsessed. During exams, I stacked textbooks high on one side of my desk and studied all day in the library. The only problem was that my grades didn’t reflect the amount of effort I was investing.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – Now, My Family Can Really Be Called ‘Family’

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – Now, My Family Can Really Be Called ‘Family’

I have a husband who earns good money and two good looking sons. On the surface, our household was a happy picture, but on the inside my family rotted away. As a primary school teacher, I was married when I was 26. I wanted to make a perfect and happy home, but nothing went my way.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – Divorce Crisis: When I Looked Back At My Life, I Saw The Answer

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – Divorce Crisis: When I Looked Back At My Life, I Saw The Answer

At first, I felt sick. I thought I was just tired from all of the stress and anxiety I felt at work. I had employees that wanted to quit working for me and I held my tongue when I talked with them to keep them from leaving. I would suppress my feelings all day at work and then go home and become angry with my family. My wife and family were afraid to even speak to me. If we did have a conversation, it always ended in a fight. If we went on a vacation, the trip would start with a smile, and end with the both of us needing to get away from each other. As time went on, I became more and more distant from my family and my wife stopped trying to communicate with me. I began to consider getting a divorce.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – “What Kind Of Mind Did You Throw Away Today?” A Couple Empties Their Minds Together

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – “What Kind Of Mind Did You Throw Away Today?” A Couple Empties Their Minds Together

In the 9th year of my marriage, a serious problem appeared in my home. Before we were married, my now-wife had been sick, but now her illness became a bigger problem for the entire family. It seemed like she was just always sick and it was becoming harder to deal with on a daily basis. I tried my best to show empathy and be understanding, but I soon began to dread coming home. As my wife’s illness got worse, so did our fights.

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – After 50 Years, I Learned To Say, “I Love You, Mom.”

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – After 50 Years, I Learned To Say, “I Love You, Mom.”

My mother is a beautiful woman, always kind and smiling. When I was 7 years old, she underwent surgery for tuberculosis. She had twice suffered from near-fatal surgical errors and still found the strength to raise my brother and me as a single parent. Her body never really recovered fully. She became increasingly hysterical due to the pressure of her life and as a consequence, my brother and I lived with constant anxiety. You see, my mother wouldn’t accept even a small mistake from either one of us.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – A World Worth Living In; Now I Live A True Life

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – A World Worth Living In; Now I Live A True Life

I was the youngest child in a family of 4 brothers and 4 sisters. Somehow, I always found myself alone. My father died when I was seven. My mother doted on all of us, making sure we were cared for in every way. She worked every night to provide for us, all the while swallowing her tears over my deceased father. I watched closely and constantly as she suffered and because of this, my childhood was filled with tears and sadness. Even though I had many siblings and my mother, I felt like there was nobody in my family with whom I could truly share my feelings.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – If I Had Not Practiced This Meditation

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – If I Had Not Practiced This Meditation

Kang Kim is married, raises children, runs a business and takes care of her mother- and father-in-law. Even though it is difficult, she believed that she could sacrifice her needs, endure and live comfortably. Eventually, her entire family began practicing this meditation and became a happy family that is considerate of one another without any emotional stress. Later, while watching her husband undergo multiple heart surgeries, she remarked that she would not have been able to overcome the situation without this meditation.

Santa Clara Meditation Personal Growth – The Shy, Greedy Girl Known As “Miss Carrot”

Santa Clara Meditation Personal Growth – The Shy, Greedy Girl Known As “Miss Carrot”

As a child, I was a greedy girl who cried a lot and was very stubborn. I wanted to have everything. I was also a very shy girl so, during the holidays, when I saw all of my relatives, it was an anxious time for me. In school, my voice would tremble and my face would blush if I had to make a presentation in front of the class. My classmates teased me and called me Miss Carrot (for some reason). If any of my peers could stand up in front of the class and speak with confidence, it made me envious.

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – At Thirty, The Party Is Over

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – At Thirty, The Party Is Over

“At thirty, the party is over…” writes poet, Choi Young-Mi. It isn’t that way for everyone, but when I turned thirty years of age, I found myself sympathizing with this poetic line as I began to struggle in life. I lost some money to somebody that I had trusted. It may not have been much money to others, but to me it was significant. Also, my father’s health had been a problem for several years and was now becoming worse.

Santa Clara Meditation Personal Growth – Two Men Talk About Their Army Service And Mind Training

Santa Clara Meditation Personal Growth – Two Men Talk About Their Army Service And Mind Training

Military obligation is one of the biggest life challenges for men living in Korea. All men are required to serve in the army when they come of age. Even among the most vigorous youth, the two years of close group life, taking orders and enduring obedience are huge burdens for soldiers. The trauma of military life continues for a while after discharge. Some say they have reintegrated into society, while others say an aftereffect remains. Can’t we go without pressure, live naturally, and take advantage of this precious time in life? The following is the story of two men who turned their army life into an opportunity to study their own minds.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I became free from jealousy and competitive mind through this meditation

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I became free from jealousy and competitive mind through this meditation

I’ve always been jealous and competitive since childhood. Born as the eldest son in my family, my grandfather always taught me that I should always live a successful life. My mother also had a different expectation from me than my brothers. My brothers never had any tutors, but for me, my parents always gave me the opportunity of having a tutor.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I Realized That “I” Was The One Giving Myself A Hard Time

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I Realized That “I” Was The One Giving Myself A Hard Time

I first came to learn about meditation through my dad’s introduction. I had become tired of the same old thing everyday day after day. There were ongoing troubles with my family, and no matter where I went, it seemed that as long as I was there, the atmosphere would become dismal and I was unable to interact with others. As I tried to find the reason or the cause within my family, I ended up blaming others for everything.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – My Tic Disorder Disappeared

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – My Tic Disorder Disappeared

Middle school was the worst time in my life. Starting the winter of 8th grade, I had to really start studying and I was at my most sensitive so I argued with my friends about small things, getting into big fights with them at least one or two times per year. All day long I would remember my classmates passing me by, their eyes looking at me, and the way they spoke to me. I became more and more timid.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – How An Empty-minded Man Is In A Relationship

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – How An Empty-minded Man Is In A Relationship

I was a sophomore in college. After freshman orientation, I gradually developed feelings for a younger student at the college. Each of the girl’s actions was similar to that of my ideal woman. The girl also began to like me and we fell in love. We became famous in school as a lovely couple. Everywhere we went, we were always together. But after a while, the anguish began. It was because I joined the army.

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness- Interpersonal Relationship Changed After Meditation Training for Teachers

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness – Interpersonal Relationship Changed After Meditation Training for Teachers

I am a teacher who teaches Korean in middle school. They say these days, children don’t listen. Then, how was I when I was in school? I was a model student. The teachers thought I was very cute. But when I saw the scene inside my heart while meditating, I wondered if there was a student who was more selfish than me. I was a student who pretended to listen to the teacher, but I ignored the teachers hiding different kinds of inside of my mind.

Santa Clara Meditation Peace of Mind – Returning Home

Santa Clara Meditation Peace of Mind – Returning Home

My name is Silvana and I started this meditation about a year and half ago. As I saw drastic changes in my father – even before I knew what this meditation was, I felt it was something I was always looking for.

Santa Clara Meditation The Meaning of Life – Now I Know How to be Happy

Santa Clara Meditation The Meaning of Life – Now I Know How to be Happy

Like any other kids, I always felt depressed about problems; especially in dealing with my parents. I left school to devote myself to music; but I still felt emptiness and I wondered, ‘For what do we come into this world? Why do we work if we are going to die someday?’ Having these questions, my curiosity was increased and I felt deeper sorrow at meaningless of life. I started to have a slight hatred towards my parents without any reason.

Santa Clara Meditation Depression – Meaning of the Mind

Santa Clara Meditation Depression – Meaning of the Mind

I became interested in this meditation as I saw the changes of my mom.
I was surprised that she did not have the same patterns of behavior and I was always curious about what she was doing.

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – A Job That Was Just Stress Turns A Place Of Gratefulness

Santa Clara Meditation Grateful Mindset – A Job That Was Just Stress Turns A Place Of Gratefulness

Company life was really hell for me. I always felt heavy and fear was always ahead of me in my work. I was introduced to mind meditation by a friend of my wife when I felt that I could not do it anymore after eight years of work. When she said that a week would make me feel at ease, I finally decided to participate in a meditation retreat there to find an answer . By emptying my mind, I could find out why I was so tired at work.

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – Throwing Away The ‘Good Girl’ Complex

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – Throwing Away The ‘Good Girl’ Complex

I was known by my friends as a ‘good girl’. My friends have asked me for anything and everything. One by one, both homework and group assignments were taken up by me. I was at my wit’s end when I was asked if I could lend them my precious clothes or books.

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – What? He Wasn’t Like This before. The Grumpy Guy Changed

Santa Clara Meditation Invest in Yourself – What? He Wasn’t Like This before. The Grumpy Guy Changed

My friend Ji-hoon from 10th grade was always awkward and clumsy no matter what he did. But then only during every test time he would, “transform!” He concentrated tremendously and that is what made him number 1 or 2 in class and would win him all the rewards from, national math competitions and science competitions.

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Having The Wisdom To Resolve Conflict Through Meditation

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Having The Wisdom To Resolve Conflict Through Meditation

There was a fellow female employee whom I hated for more than a decade. I tried to control my mind somehow, but it didn’t work. I was only able to apologize to the employee and say, “I’m so sorry to think about how much I hurt you,” after realizing that it really was all ‘my fault.’

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – I Broke Free From My Framework Of Being Nice

Santa Clara Meditation Self Reflection – I Broke Free From My Framework Of Being Nice

I had always been jealous of confident women who were able to express themselves. I had been the very typical ‘kind’ and ‘nice’ woman due to the way my parents raised me. My dad continuously used to teach me that I always had to be nice to people and I had to pretend to be fine even though the situation was not fine.

Santa Clara Meditation Health – My Eczema Has Now Completely Disappeared

Santa Clara Meditation Health – My Eczema Has Now Completely Disappeared

“Did you have eczema?” “Yes, and it was severe.” People may not know the fact that I used to have eczema until I tell them. Eczema was my main issue during my teenage life. My eczema started when I was in 5th grade.

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Abandoning ‘Me’ Who Hurt My Family

Santa Clara Meditation Repentance – Abandoning ‘Me’ Who Hurt My Family

As I embarked on my 40s, where others claimed I had reached success, I on the other hand, felt no joy in neither body nor mind. As a CPA, I earned a comfortable living, and perhaps it’s because I had, more or less, tried doing everything, but there wasn’t anything new that I really wanted to do.

Santa Clara Meditation Stress – So Grateful to This Meditation As It Is Showing Me the Path to the True World

Santa Clara Meditation Stress – So Grateful to This Meditation As It Is Showing Me the Path to the True World

I used to dread walking to and from work. I was practically at work in my mind already and began getting stressed out about the day before I even started working. When leaving I would be thinking about what I needed to get done next or play back the day in my mind and judge whether it was a good or not.

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness – I’m Grateful. I’m Truly Grateful, Everyday

Santa Clara Meditation Happiness – I’m Grateful. I’m Truly Grateful, Everyday

I first began this meditation on September 18, 2011 at this meditation center. I’ll never forget it because it was a very difficult time in my life. I was going through a lot of things. I was going through a separation with my husband, my oldest daughter left for college, and I was not talking to my family.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I No Longer Felt Like an Outsider

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – I No Longer Felt Like an Outsider

Before I started this meditation, I was very conscious of my surroundings and was concerned with what people thought about me. I wanted to be liked and was afraid to say no to people. Friends knew me as the ‘nice and cheerful’ girl.

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – This Is Letting Go

Santa Clara Meditation Relationships – This Is Letting Go

I didn’t know what I was looking for or why I sought, but I had been seeking for over 15 years. I read numerous spiritual books and attended many meditation retreats and workshops; but after I practiced this meditation, all my seeking stopped.

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