Santa Clara Meditation Positive Life Changes – Saleswoman Overcomes Inferiority Complex And Comparative Stress
Kim Young-hee / Sales
After graduating from high school, I had a job,met my husband at 25 and got married. After living as a stay-at-home mom for nine years, I started working in cosmetics sales. I was making money and had the time to take care of my children, but the world was tough. Having grown up in a difficult situation and failing to graduate from college, I lost my nerve in front of people who wore manufacturers’ clothes and carried designer bags. This happened especially in the presence of professional women. There were many times when foreign languages likeEnglish came out in conversation, and I couldn’t understand and struggled. The conversation was interrupted by silence and my confidence was diminished.
“I can do it” but I’ve always been insecure
Whenever I was compared to my smart, hardworking colleagues, I lost my energy, and only a sigh came out: “Why am I so bad?”I went to leadership seminars to learn to be confident, but English was also a big stumbling block there. In front of blackboards full of English words, others wrote hard but my notes were always empty. I found another way. I went to see a good salesman and asked for advice. Also, I smiled in the mirror and shouted, “I can do it!” ten times a day. But that amount of positive affirmations didn’t become mine either. Moreover, my sales figures were red-lighted as the sales area was moved from provincial to Seoul. I came to the meditation center when I was at the crossroads of whether or not to continue this work.
I looked back at my life while meditating. When I was poor, I was always scolded by my teacher for paying tuition late.. I envied my friends who drank milk as a snack, and as I passed by the store, I stared blankly at them with desire for a snack. Pictures of my poor life in elementary school poured out a lot.. I was poor, I was not pretty, I was short… I thought I didn’t have any luck. Complaints abounded. I was not a part of anything. God gave all his talents in unfair ways. “Why were you born this way? I asked to myself. One day, when I was constantly abandoning my life pictures, I laughed and laughed. Because the closer I looked, the more I found myself funny.
Look back at my mind instead of comparing myself to other people
I thought I had lived a difficult life, but I was just crying and crying and crying to make sure I was the one who lived well. Which kid would be more lovely: the one who cares only for himself or the one who cares for others? Everything made sense to me. I was not worthy of any blessing. It was no wonder that business was difficult. Being kind to customers was a way for me to make a buck, and there was no tolerance for the others there. My face heated up. I was so ashamed of my wrong life that I cried for a while.
First of all, I put down my desire to make money. It’s a lot easier to work without the burden of sales. My mind was at ease, so the other side accepted me easily. If I didn’t understand the customer’s words well, I had the courage to ask them again honestly, “I don’t know.” Without reading a self-improvement book, the things that normally wouldn’t have been tried, were being done by themselves. My business performance increased tenfold.
When I see people at work, they spend too much energy comparing themselves to others. That’s why people often don’t seem to be able to do it properly. I was able to escape from the negative thoughts by throwing away my mind through meditation. I’ve learned positive mind and gratitude, and I’ve also learned that self-improvement is about saying things truthfully. People look at me and say, “You must be doing something good, you look like you’re playing, not working.” That’s really true. I work but not work, it’s like I’m having fun. I can’t stop smiling.
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